@scrambled.megs3: I thought I couldn’t relax. Turns out, I just couldn’t feel safe around him. #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #survivalmode #domesticabuse #survivor

Ana :

You can never ever relax around a narc spouse. Ever.

Heather Bailey :

Took me 25 years to realize I wasn’t the problem and another 5 until I left. Divorce should be final within the next few weeks. I can finally breathe.

Rose🌹 :

thank you for your videos. I'm learning so much about my marriage. I really appreciate your honesty. it is an eye opener. hugs 💛 🫂 thank you

Pandasthma :

survived that. now I live.

vsorola :

I will keep myself busy from the time I wake to the time I go to bed and my husband will say get some rest or take a nap you have work tonight and the minute I sit down the faces start as if I have been lazy all day and then he will start questioning what’s for dinner or do we have any snacks as if I’m the only one that can walk in the kitchen.

K :

How do you avoid a relationship like this?

shannonferguson575 :

yes I went through the same thing

Rosebud :

does anyone else just fall asleep when you finally sit down? the family jokes about it, mom is always falling asleep. :(

Taylor Edwards 🆘🇺🇸 :

Yes!!! This is a great share. Nice I finish in court I’ll do the same. It’s crazy he bought me these two journals for anxiety but I only had anxiety when I was with him

Kim :

Same. This is why I went back to school to earn my bachelors degree. When I needed to avoid him, I would do homework or write a paper, anything school related. I’m so so glad you are where you are now and able to finally relax. Enjoy life!

Vicki 🙂 :

Because you know if you try to relax they find a task for you to do or say something about what you didn’t do.

gillymomma :

I always feel anxious, tense, never could relax. Now that we’re separated, he’s not around as much and I’m completely relaxed and when he comes around to get the kids I feel tense and physically sick.

Sweet Urban Printing :

I didn’t know that I was mentally being abused either after going to therapy. I learned that I was and that my therapist told me that I needed to get out, and so I did, and now I am able to relax and enjoy life and not be miserable, depressed, sad, or suicidal

Amy :

Me too!!! 23 years! I finally left! Now if only we can get a divorce… going on two years!!

Jenn :

OMG, I have always been “a busy body!” Until one day i couldn’t move my body. I had to have my spine reconstructed, he treated me horribly. I’m so you experienced what you experienced.

Omi :

i feel this. now i know why.

it'sme :

that explains it

user8437563995813 :

This is my life!

Valérie J. Kennedy :

Used to be a super Zen person... until I met my ex 10 years ago... just left the relationship after I started having bad physical reactions to being stressed from my ex... I felt like I wasn't allowed to relax or even take a much needed snooze... I'm in my healing era after spending a decade in survival mode.

Jodilynn :

You are the most relatable account regarding this dynamic I’ve come across. I feel almost all the things you talk about. For years my husband rarely left the house without me therefore I hardly had any time home alone. He had a back injury & was out of work. Then he had an issue going out unless I was with him. All the things you dealt with in this video was how life was with the added issue of him not going out. That part is better now but I still have the same feelings.

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Katie Leigh :

What drove me crazy was the double standards. I could never do enough! But he never did anything!!!!! And everything he hated he did!

balancebrainwaves :

Same. He would point out to me I could never relax. I couldn’t sleep well with him. Started dating a new guy and I fall asleep instantly

Laylajospeed :

Oh my goodness this was me when I was with my x husband! You broke open something I didn’t know now makes sense.

Isabellababy :

10 years 😭 what a way to live