Ayanna :
The crazy thing is, growing up, accountability was always projected outward. We were taught who to stay away from and what company not to keep, yet when the same behaviours are displayed within the four walls of the church, they are often swept under the rug and excused.
Oftentimes, leaders within the church dismiss the reality of church hurt by asking, “If somebody hurts you at work, would you leave your job? So why leave the church when somebody hurts you?” But I think that is such a poor comparison. How can we compare people in environments where the word of God may not be known, taught, or actively practised with fellow believers whom we come to fellowship with, grow with, and learn to live like Christ alongside? We come to church seeking refuge from the very things that hurt us in the world. We come to encourage each other to lay our burdens at the altar, empty our hearts, find encouragement, and have the weight on our shoulders lifted among people who profess to share our faith. So how do we then become guilty of creating the very same environment and communities we encourage others to leave and come to without any difference. The church should not be a continuation of the hurt people are trying to heal from.
“Well, that's just how she is” or “He's been here for 25 years.” Since when did personality, position, or longevity in the church become a justification for behaviour that contradicts the very word we profess to live by? Longevity in the church should never be mistaken for maturity in Christ.
We speak about love, grace, forgiveness, and the fruit of the holy Spirit, but these principles must be demonstrated, not just preached. The shepherd's responsibility is to guide and protect the sheep, not allow some to be continually hurt to preserve the comfort or reputation of others.
We cannot be so concerned about protecting the institution that we neglect the people within it. Accountability is not the absence of love, it is an expression of it.
People should not have to recover from the harm caused by the church while the church refuses to acknowledge that harm.
But God's love remains steadfast!❤️
2026-10-27 02:41:13