@usinthestars: on our second date he was charming, funny, dressed perfectly, and paid without blinking. then our waitress brought out the wrong order and he snapped at her so fast i felt my whole body go cold. he made her stand there while he explained, loudly, how simple his order was. she was maybe nineteen. he turned back to me smiling like nothing happened. that was the end for me. people think my standards are about money because i turned down a guy with a nice car. but my standards are about this. how you talk to the waitress. whether you call your mom back. whether you hold the door for the janitor. a cute face fades in five minutes if the person behind it is cruel. i'll take kind over impressive every single time.