@forgotten.feelings_: my mom told me that when i was nineteen and dating a guy who kept saying he loved me while still messaging his ex on the side. i was defending him to her at the kitchen table, saying he was just confused and needed time. she put down her coffee and said it so simply it made me mad. i argued with her for an hour. three months later i found out he was seeing his ex again, and her words were the first thing in my head. since then i've used that line like a filter. if someone says they love me but their eyes are still shopping, i don't argue with myself about it anymore. it's not complicated. i'm married now to someone who has never once made me wonder. when i told my mom we were engaged, she reminded me of that conversation, and we both laughed at how stubborn i was.