@closetome.moments: i started a new gym, and one of the women there wouldn't even look at me. she'd move to the other side of the room when i walked in. i couldn't figure out what i'd done. a month later, i found out she was best friends with my ex's sister. apparently i'd been described as manipulative, crazy, and a liar. she'd built a whole version of me in her head without ever saying hello. it messed with me for a while. i wanted to walk up to her and explain. but you can't chase down every story someone tells about you. so i just kept showing up and being kind. two months later, she asked me to spot her on the bench press. she said, "you're not what i expected."