@dennisagbeti: your wife may forgive your words, but that does not mean she has stopped hurting because of them. sometimes, long after an argument is over, a woman is still struggling with the things her husband said to her. she may remember those words when she is alone. she may replay them in her mind. she may begin to question her worth, her beauty, her intelligence, or how much her husband truly loves her. and the painful part? you may have forgotten what you said, but she is still trying to heal from it. please understand this, your words have the power to make your wife feel deeply loved or deeply wounded. you are the person who should make her feel safe, valued, beautiful, respected, and reassured. your mouth should not become the source of the pain she struggles to recover from. be careful how you speak to your wife.