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Scott :
She is correct. Definition: Valid is an adjective that generally means well-grounded, logical, or legally/officially acceptable
2026-10-30 16:47:14
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Kevin Tatum :
What you’re saying is not the dictionary definition of the word “valid.”
2026-10-30 15:38:59
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🪞 :
THANK YOU. 😭 Like I know exactly what she’s trying to communicate, but she’s conflating fundamentally different things and turning what should be a nuanced distinction into a messy absolute. 😭 You’re ALWAYS valid in feeling anger toward someone. You’re not ALWAYS justified in being angry AT them.
2026-10-30 13:21:24
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Taka :
Unfortunately, some people are not able to have productive conversations about feelings. This could be due to learned trauma responses or inherent conditions like un-treated BPD.
2026-10-30 15:13:38
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cristina ashly 🧡 :
let’s define the word valid since words mean things
2026-10-30 22:51:25
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Deej :
That’s the issue, semantics. Valid in most contexts mean well-grounded, logically correct, or having legal or official force. Because of that, the statement “your feelings are valid” gets taken that way
2026-10-30 20:51:25
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soph🧚💚 :
Thank you! I hated this video so much, she got it so wrong 😳
2026-10-30 14:25:28
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Lexie :
My sister wants me to apologize for things like having a birthday that was more conducive to people attending my birthday parties. That is an unreasonable feeling an expectation.
2026-10-30 16:01:46
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Rubik's Monkey :
I dunno. You used the terms "makes sense given what you saw ect." and she used the term "reasonable". Those feel close if not the same to me. I think you both have a decent point and honestly the nuance feels close enough that I'd just give people the benefit of the doubt that y'all are describing the same thing
2026-10-30 14:38:34
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tonyfischer :
If valid means “the feeling makes sense given what you saw and the stuff you’ve been through in life” then there is still an element of accuracy associated with it. The feeling can only be valid given (1) viewpoint and (2) personal context. By your definition if the feeling doesn’t align with those two factors it isn’t valid.
2026-10-30 20:02:32
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shiva :
i think your feelings can be valid but emotions and feelings can also be lies. just because it feels true doesn’t mean it is true.
2026-10-30 15:59:26
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______ :
I think that by valid she means simply recognizing your feelings exist, as opposed to justifying your feelings. I find that for those feeling intense emotions they don’t need to figure out if their emotions are justified, or if they need to act right there and then, all they want is for their emotions to feel valid. I think this means for someone to acknowledge they are real too. I think she’s right in saying we do not need need to have our emotions validated because if we feel them then they are valid, but rarely are our emotions rational or justified. And I think we are allowed to draw this objectively line. I don’t think it’s inherent that if we know our emotions are not justified there will be guilt or shame. We can acknowledge our feelings are dumb without feeling dumb for having them.
2026-10-30 16:46:39
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rhys :
to me it’s your feelings are always valid until you act with your feelings. the action is what isn’t valid depending on what happened
2026-10-30 21:08:00
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Phoenix :
feelings can never be "reasonable" because reason is ruled by logic which is entirely. separate. from. emotions!! AND everyone's determination of "reasonable" will be different given their own perspective (and, ironically, their own feelings about the situation)
2026-10-30 15:33:36
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Seer :
I'm a huge fan of the dialectical approach to this. All feelings are valid in that they are part of your experience, but not all feelings are justified in that sometimes they do not fit the facts of the situation and are not useful to the situation.
2026-10-30 15:54:28
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Jay The Non Voter. :
Your feelings are valid to you.
2026-10-31 04:20:50
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mylifeasliz :
“Okay, so she doesn’t really have this right” 😂😂😂
2026-10-30 13:11:24
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Danny Neubert (they/them) :
a better phrase I use is "our feelings CAN BE unreliable narrators." which I follow up with a deeper nuance and a deeper explination
2026-10-30 14:57:05
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hope_peddler :
Yesssss! I was gonna make this video, better coming from you. Always check the STORY underneath the feeling to make sure it’s accurate- often the story is missing pieces or based on assumptions. But often sharing your valid feelings is how you get the information you need to fact check the story
2026-10-30 16:18:19
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Chloe Stolzenhein :
Love your clap backs
2026-11-03 11:40:18
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crystalhenley553 :
late diagnosed ADHD, autism, also problems with anxiety, depression and ruminating thoughts. I absolutely know when my thoughts that are sparking emotions aren't "rational" or "reasonable" and then I would just get into a shame cycle of, these feelings are stupid and not based on reality and need to leave and that doesn't work....
2026-10-30 16:45:46
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Naomi :
There are so many pieces of nuance here.... Just like I don't have to accept an apology for harm that was caused
2026-11-01 03:15:39
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TMO Fishing :
You should make a video about the difference between feelings being valid, but not always facts. 🙏
2026-11-01 12:39:50
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Salted caramel :
I think you are unnecessarily confusing it
2026-10-31 16:17:46
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MonikaHoyt :
This is so good
2026-10-31 04:39:54
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