@dr.sherrie: When you travel all that way to see your low-effort family and they still barely engage with you, the disappointment can be heartbreaking. You spend money on flights, hotels, gas, and time away from your own responsibilities because you want to maintain a connection. Yet when you arrive, they're distracted, unavailable, uninterested, or unwilling to make meaningful time for you. You're physically present, but emotionally, you're still on the outside. Then, when you stop visiting as often, they complain that they never see you. They want the credit of having a close family without making the effort required to create one. ✈️💔 What to Do About It: Stop measuring family connection by how far you're willing to travel to maintain it. Pay attention to how people engage with you once you arrive. Your time, money, and emotional energy deserve consideration. You shouldn't have to cross the country for a relationship that won't meet you halfway, even when you're standing right in front of them. 🧳🌱 #LowEffortFamily #WastedEnergy ##Relationships #HealingJourney #Boundaries
Dr. Sherrie
Region: US
Saturday 31 October 2026 17:27:22 GMT
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yosoynickiiii :
When they won’t pick you up from the airport
2026-10-31 21:12:15
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Odis mom :
They spite you for having left
2026-10-31 22:16:06
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TikTokUser :
Don't forget about the part where you are using your PTO for these visits. They use their PTO for actual vacations.
2026-11-01 17:26:59
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Kmarielove :
I stopped going
2026-10-31 19:55:43
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AStag007 :
I've crossed the country for years for people who wouldn't get off the couch for me
2026-10-31 18:42:24
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Kimmylicious :
Me bringing 30-33 gifts every year. 3 hour drive. 30 minutes. A few sentences. 3 hour drive back. I may get a Christmas card and a few gifts (not the problem here). But it was always me making the effort. I stopped visiting, and started taking vacations EVERY holiday by myself. Peace
2026-11-01 01:18:01
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Deliela :
no one sat with us at the table. I told a few I was engaged. no one was interested in meeting my fiance. we both drive back broke financially & emotionally.. yet they expect me to send out wedding invitations soon...
2026-10-31 20:07:54
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Acalzonkitao :
And they expect for you to bring gifts and pamper them
2026-10-31 21:14:30
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ToddA1964 :
I got a worst story. My family told me not to come cause they forgot after I had driven 800 miles on my way to my second home from Rhode Island to Florida and I was an hour and a half from the house and they were like you’re coming now I’m like yes they closed last week. We talked about this and I have never spoken to them again that was three years ago.
2026-11-01 03:24:54
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Alec DeGroot :
All for a damn picture I ain’t even in
2026-11-01 15:33:00
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jenya5 :
exhausting and expensive!
2026-10-31 22:10:39
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scottfulton55 :
They want to pretend that we are in a time that is gone
2026-11-01 20:52:42
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Ll21 :
The worst is how they barely engage with my kids
2026-11-01 02:55:44
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Anne :
This is more common than you know!
2026-10-31 19:44:28
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Diane :
The problem is, they DON'T CARE.
2026-11-01 04:01:25
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rotunsa3 :
After every other vacation of theirs and husbands plans with his family are scheduled a weekend is carved out for me. PTO yes. And I bought groceries and beer after flying down. Finally I woke up!
2026-11-06 16:06:06
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userglobal739@ :
We were invited. Happened to us. Traveled a thousand miles, paid for a hotel half mile away. Rental car and airfare. They were only available for few hours. Never ever again.
2026-11-01 02:13:31
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ajcn__ :
I hate the family I was born into…
2026-11-02 13:38:48
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Mars :
In addition, they want you to stay at their house but don’t clean, have plans for meals, or make the place suitable for guests. You have to do the mental load and grocery shopping for them when you get there.
2026-11-01 20:08:30
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Tannah Greenwood :
Yep! Not wasting my time doing this ever again
2026-10-31 19:29:54
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Sonrisa :
I fly 8,000 miles to go home, and then most of my family think that driving 45 minutes to see me (at the good family member’s house where I’m staying) is too much.
2026-11-01 01:34:57
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Vision Coach & Attorney :
Yes that’s why I’m not going back
2026-11-01 14:39:24
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robinbrown698 :
It’s so expensive
2026-11-01 13:39:18
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Salvador Navarro :
I explained this to my mom about my siblings but she still wanted me to make effort so I did. When she passed, they ransacked her safes, stole everything, acted toxic, blocked me, and scapegoated me. God knows! Been no contact
2026-11-01 04:59:54
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Sandi :
not even going. I will be the only daughter alone for the holidays. they watch me drown and I made it to the surface myself.
2026-11-01 01:58:28
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