@closetome.moments: my cousin sent me that video with a single text. "isn't this him?" for two months, my boyfriend had been saying he was overwhelmed. too much going on with work, his family, his health. he couldn't see me as much. but every time i asked what was happening, he'd say he didn't want to talk about it. so i waited. i sent encouraging texts. i gave him space. then i ran into his best friend at the farmers market, who mentioned they'd just gotten back from a great weekend in the mountains. there was no crisis. he'd just stopped wanting me and was waiting for me to give up first. so i did. but i did it on my terms, not his.