@becirvm: 3 signs it’s time to leave the avoidant before you get hurt: 1. you rehearse conversations because you’re afraid of their reaction. 2. you tolerate things that hurt because you’re tired of explaining. 3. their mood determines whether you feel comfortable being yourself. that’s not emotional maturity. that’s learning to make yourself smaller so somebody else never has to be uncomfortable. you deserve a relationship where your needs have room to exist too.