@lisasonni: An abusive man damages trust, then accuses you of being insecure when you stop trusting him. He humiliates you, and when you pull away, suddenly you’re abandoning him. He screams at you, and when you call it out, he becomes the victim. Your reaction to being hurt becomes the problem instead of the behavior that hurt you. That’s the alpha-victim paradox: he creates the wound, then uses your response as evidence against you. #DARVO #EmotionalAbuse #CoerciveControl

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user4251509960497 :

Yes!!! “I’m screwed if I do and I’m screwed if I don’t”

2026-11-02 18:57:04

🌌DawnShimoda🌌 :

they have an internal time machine that allows them to justify what they did with the aftermath THEY caused.

2026-11-02 23:18:55

mindgamesdecoded0 :

The alpha-victim paradox explains so much — he creates the wound, then treats your reaction to being hurt as the real problem. Once you see that pattern, you can't unsee it. Thank you for naming it so clearly.

2026-11-05 15:10:29

Catharina :

Yepp been there

2026-11-02 16:04:50

kiJosie St :

confused

2026-11-02 20:35:05

kiJosie St :

yes

2026-11-02 20:34:24

Pipilie :

"so this is all my fault!? you never take any accountability!"

2026-11-02 21:27:20

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Lisa Sonni

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Monday 02 November 2026 15:32:05 GMT

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user4251509960497 :

Yes!!! “I’m screwed if I do and I’m screwed if I don’t”

🌌DawnShimoda🌌 :

they have an internal time machine that allows them to justify what they did with the aftermath THEY caused.

mindgamesdecoded0 :

The alpha-victim paradox explains so much — he creates the wound, then treats your reaction to being hurt as the real problem. Once you see that pattern, you can't unsee it. Thank you for naming it so clearly.

Catharina :

Yepp been there

kiJosie St :

confused

kiJosie St :

yes

Pipilie :

"so this is all my fault!? you never take any accountability!"

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