@stephanie__rigg: For avoidant folks, it's often the case that what you judge in others reflects what you have disavowed or suppressed within yourself. For example, emotional reliance and a desire for closeness or affection. To be clear, this isn't to suggest that you should override your own boundaries and yield entirely to a partner's preferences — particularly where your partner might sit at the other end of the spectrum and have equally unrealistic expectations. But convincing yourself that the problems in your relationships are solely a function of their "neediness" invariably misses the full picture. What's healthy, as always, sits somewhere in the middle. And that means you both have work to do as far as nudging the bounds of your comfort zone. Clip from Ep 287 of On Attachment - listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Stephanie Rigg | On Attachment

Open In TikTok:

Region: AU

Monday 02 November 2026 19:30:27 GMT