@bennylichtenwalner: If you've been married for a long time and your partner is leaving out of the blue, everything you want to do to save it is probably making it worse. Therapy, the letter, talking to friends and family, all of that is trying hard, and trying hard takes away from attraction. The only way to attract someone is to not need it. It might feel too late, but you don't understand the impact of time on your situation. Married or together for years and it's falling apart? DM me ROOTS and I'll message you back.