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Erica :
Safe doesn’t always just mean environmentally safe. She keeps saying safe within YOUR body. I’m confused why people are bringing up drug addicts & DV situations. Yes those are unsafe situations for someone to be in, but that’s not even what she is speaking of. She means being safe in your own body, which is just a small piece of the situation. She keeps saying she’s not contributing this to the entirety of infertility. I do understand it being a small piece of the puzzle. You guys are REACHHHING.
2026-11-05 01:02:44
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Abby.gold :
You’re not wrong! Once upon a time I chose to do prolonged fasting. I would go days without eating and I started skipping my period. I was talking to my doctor about it and she told me that my body realized I wasn’t eating and said DO NOT DROP AN EGG, THIS BODY ISNT TAKING IN FOOD ITS NOT SAFE TO MAKE A BABY RIGHT NOW! That’s not to say that this is everyone’s problem but when your body is out of wack, it can absolutely contribute to not being able to get pregnant!
2026-11-04 19:33:58
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onlyhereforcrochet :
I mean NGL, how many times has it happened where people struggling with infertility don't have other obvious external (technically internal I guess) health issues affecting it, but then they're stressing about the repeated negative tests etc and feeling broken (which is fully understandable), but then when they give up actively trying and decide to focus on other things and don't stress about that in particular even if they still very much want it, do they then get unexpectedly pregnant?! I can understand this is a very sensitive topic for some people, and as you've repeated it's only one part of the larger picture not the main piece. but even if it is the main piece, experiencing that stress doesn't make it the person's *fault* for not getting pregnant, they're not to blame for that, maybe the descriptor of feeling *safe* is what is throwing people off maybe? but even then, I get it and it's still an apt description - but stress absolutely impacts the body in various substantial ways and if TTC is the main stressor, it could also be what is impacting it too because of how stress and the related hormones etc do in fact influence ones ability to get pregnant. there's many factors that can impact it and that one particular factor is usually a small piece, it can also be the main factor once the other factors have been cleared/sorted, but it also still being a main factor doesn't make it anybodies fault, it's not a failure on the woman's part! it is something to also consider if there's no other real explanation, and that's not even to say stop TTC, but maybe being able to fill your own cup and take care of yourself and fulfill yourself outside of that want to be pregnant will in fact help because your stress will be much more manageable and therefore less cortisol
2026-11-05 15:45:35
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Xxoxrene :
People are triggered because they’re jealous. Protect your peace
2026-11-06 08:16:46
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abbster 3000 ❤️🔥🏁 :
Ugh why are these haters bothering you queen
2026-11-04 21:20:22
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Serena Astrid :
Numerous practitioners say the same thing so I don’t know why everyone is losing it on you.
2026-11-04 23:52:31
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Lex✨Millen ✨ :
Regardless of what anyone is going through, their triggers are their own responsibility. Projecting hate and nastiness because of their own grief does nothing to help them. They just need to scroll past pregnancy and baby content or stay off of social media if they can’t be kind.
2026-11-04 19:27:53
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🌻 Sara🌻 :
While I agree with what you are saying I struggle a little with this. I have seen so many drug addicts and alcoholics be able to get pregnant with no issues, what’s the safe thing happening in their whom?
2026-11-04 19:50:55
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Destinee Leet :
I think people are also upset the fact that you are having a healthy pregnancy while being plus size. when weight can attribute to fertility, but it doesn’t always have an effect. I pray for nothing but greatness in your life Momma and I pray that Jesus hold your baby close and make sure that he comes earth side with us.
2026-11-05 14:21:20
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Emily Kirkland :
The fact that you said you hate how people try to shoehorn in on one aspect and then people in the comments are focusing on one specific item. 😅 I’ve never wanted children until I finally got in a relationship that I actually felt safe in so I absolutely agree with you. Stress is a big factor that can affect the “safe” aspect. Stress at work, juggling other responsibilities etc.
2026-11-05 11:57:12
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Irene529 :
I had to listen to this twice to wholly hear what you were saying 1. you’re right in saying it’s a small part because there are so many different factors within infertility 2. This is your opinion and the mindset you needed to get pregnant and “what you believe in”
2026-11-06 02:43:40
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Jules :
Low egg count 🥲
2026-11-05 01:26:10
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Rockeyasz :
You are right, the more people understand the more helpful it will be for them
2026-11-06 15:23:32
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somethingclever :
This! It’s also why Drs say Moms mental health is so important in pregnancy! Sever anxiety and depression in mom is proven to have negative impact on babies. I honestly think the trick to me getting pregnant was no pressure. We said if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t we’ll still be happy.
2026-11-05 14:59:28
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November :
I’ve been asked so many times what I did to get pregnant naturally after seven years of unexplained infertility, and people HATE when I say therapy. Antidepressants I think were also a necessary step for my own mental health journey but when I say NOTHING about my physical health changed, I mean it
2026-11-05 16:52:00
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Andriana Niko :
You’re such a kind person
2026-11-05 03:13:40
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Joan💕 :
I’m so proud of you honey [Heartwarming][Perfect score]
2026-11-05 01:43:17
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✨AdelinaMaria✨ :
This is super important and is a piece of the puzzle but Ila big piece! I got pregnant for my first time at 350lbs and lost that baby and felt scared to gain more weight in my pregnancy and didn’t feel safe at all. I’m not saying that’s what caused a miscarriage but looking back being pregnant in the moment I didn’t accept it which is tough on my body and mind vs getting pregnant at 270lbs and feeling more worthy of it. The number on the scale scared me but it was more because of my hormones and health were terrible at 350lbs vs still being over weight at 270lbs but being so healthy where I’ve had an amazing experience despite back pain being unbearable lol
2026-11-04 19:08:42
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pastapleasehelp :
Have you had fertility struggles? You are literally giving women advice about safety and insinuating that if you’re not safe and other parts of you are healthy that you’ll struggle is wild. Would you explain how children are brought into DV situations? Are you trying to say those women felt safe and they felt so powerful about it they conceived while being abused? Sorry just trying to understand.
2026-11-04 19:10:49
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britwade1 :
Nah. I’m out. That’s a weird comment. Plenty of women in incredibly unsafe situations still get pregnant and vice versa.
2026-11-04 22:51:47
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whomst :
Sure, but your womb being safe was your first talking point and the only one that you repeat multiple times. I encourage you to ACTUALLY have REAL conversations with the people struggling with infertility in your life. Telling someone that they need to just be positive in order to make their womb “safe” for reproduction. I’d also encourage you to research grief, jealousy and projection. You say you hold empathy for people struggling, and then fail to offer grace when their struggles are addressed.
2026-11-04 19:06:17
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junglejim4322 :
Please, please, please stop using the word safe. Do you know how many woman are not safe and still get pregnant? Woman who experience DV and SA - they didn’t feel safe and still got pregnant. Feeling safe, has NOTHING to do with getting pregnant. Unfortunately, I followed and supported you for a long time but this is truly something I’m just in awe about. I have felt safe for 6 years. I had every test possible done. My husband, had every possible test done. But I carry a condition with my immune system that sees an embryo as a threat to the body. I’ve done every healing option possible, both physically and mentally, to try to help - I can’t overcome a beast that is genetically apart of me. The amount of chemical pregnancies I’ve had? I can’t keep track. The blighted ovum I had last year? Horrible. 10/10 do not recommend. I tried in those 6-8 months following that miscarriage to try to heal something in myself, but there was nothing to fix. At the end of the day? I feel safe. My body feels safe. But my immune system doesn’t understand and that requires assistance from Drs and there’s nothing wrong with that.
2026-11-06 15:57:35
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Lenny’s Human :
I really think you should reconsider your use of the word “safe” to get across what you are trying to say, mental health is important for any health journey but I reacted negatively to it because survivors of rape who become pregnant from their assaulter definitely do NOT feel safe.
2026-11-05 21:44:02
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