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Apheara :
my family support is amazing. i do nothing on holidays. my husband cooks, my kids come home and do a company clean. I just socialize and make yorkshire pudding. hubby does all presents except his own. i do that via Amazon mostly
2026-11-05 17:59:39
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Manic Pixie Dream Librarian :
I have planners… planners help me parcel out my energy and delegate tasks. My Thanksgiving one is little because it’s usually just me, my spouse and our kiddo, but my Christmas one is 130 pages! (I don’t use them all but I made it myself and it covers just about everything I could ever need. I made it before I got sick and I’m grateful to have it.
2026-11-08 21:10:04
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Tiffany Davis4746 :
last year I learned a hard lesson.. You cannot cook everything all in 1 week and repeat that next month. so I am starting prep work and freezing things so I can heat and serve for both Holidays. and involving the family in prep and heat and serve. hope it goes better this year!
2026-11-05 03:39:04
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Shannon McGarry :
The people around me know and understand that once I hit my wall, I need to nap. They’re happy to step in for me when I need rest 💕 you can find me asleep on anyone’s couch 🤣
2026-11-05 00:47:51
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nanajules6 :
I’ve been thinking for days about what I can do to make the Thanksgiving meal easier on me. I’ll start prep and cooking a few days before, doing a little bit each day. Lots of breaks and some naps along the way. 😉
2026-11-05 00:11:16
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Hey Kermitt 76 :
I volunteer for the jobs nobody wants to do and do them within my capabilities. For instance I cut up all of the fruit, vegetables, cheese, and any ingredients we need to assemble the meals. I am able to pulla chair up to the breakfast nook and comfortably contribute and socialize without overdoing it. My mother in law loves it and she ges to teach me her recipes as we go.
2026-11-05 00:39:43
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bluecollarbougie89 :
Me and my husband do a family meal at home so we can control the menu the lighting and the noise levels I know how it sounds but smells especially air fresheners foods especially full of dyes or overly sweet bright light and a ton of noise are all triggers so we do a meal at home and invite family who want to show up
2026-11-05 03:18:12
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angela24112 :
Why do so many people not spell out what they are saying anymore??? All the acronyms are so confusing 🫤!!! 😏 I have to just except that I can’t do everything anymore & I just keep trying to take the best care of myself through the holidays & not stress myself out about it. I am in trying to be in an acceptance phase of my chronic illnesses. It’s so exhausting just trying to stay alive & survive after years of thriving!!! But, living in the “ grind “ fight or survival mode my entire life! 🤦🏼♀️🥺 Take care of yourself before it’s too late ⏰. Have a safe really nice day!!! 🥰🥀🌹🥀
2026-11-05 03:05:40
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drop_it_like_it’s_POTS :
I am struggling to establish some boundaries with my mom. She FREAKS out at the thought of not having a traditional holiday. She is fixing to have surgery, I am having a minor procedure done the day before thanksgiving and have other issues going on. None of us has the time or the energy to cook a big meal. She is dead aet against a smaller meal or going out though.
2026-11-05 05:43:29
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Denise Willis :
I just miss out, my health is important now that I have raised my kids. I matter too now. So my family understands
2026-11-05 21:38:02
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Mybuttholeishaunted :
Nope. My husband and I stay at home and flip the family off. They make fun of people who are sick so we go nowhere near them.
2026-11-05 02:32:17
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Miriam Y :
I’m ordering Thanksgiving dinner from Fresh Market, making some dairy free mashed potatoes and using decorative paper plates, napkins and utensils. If people want to bring something, fine with me. Not exhausted myself over any holiday.
2026-11-05 01:08:13
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corky :
For the pst two years I’ve stayed at home alone. I don’t want to ruin the holiday for anyone else and I’m afraid I would. I will probably do the same this year.
2026-11-05 17:12:03
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Beth123 :
I completely ignore them. No tree, no presents, no holiday decor. No get together with anyone. I do out out seasonal decor line pumpkins and pine cones and snowmen and evergreen trees not decorated
2026-11-05 15:21:48
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💙Misty Gray💙 :
I try to attend and enjoy and participate and deal with the consequences later. For several years I couldn't participate at all or even leave my house. So, I do all I can on holidays and I'm happy to be included. The days after are rough but it's worth it.
2026-11-05 02:52:40
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Wendy🐦Team James👑🎹👑 :
I will probably get a hot meal delivered and watch city walks of the Christmas 🎄 decorations in cities I wish I had the capacity to travel to. that's what I did the past few years...keep hoping one year I can travel again 🙏
2026-11-05 20:31:17
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Valerie 🇺🇸 :
I only celebrate with my daughter, son and grandson. They love me as I am. We cook together and my 7 yo grandson helps us decorate my house.
2026-11-05 23:46:56
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J H :
I’m limited contact with my family. So lots of distance and space for us to do holidays our way
2026-11-05 03:30:14
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Jennjennyjennfa :
We do our own thing. In our own setting. on our own time.
2026-11-05 01:40:03
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user7772593551398 :
new to the community...went to a young grandkids party at a "venue "....so sorry for others that have been trying to navigate with chronic illness. Eye opening
2026-11-05 01:12:27
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beauty corner :
I usually sit and socialize with family last year at Christmas i struggled more than usual because on top of chronic illness i had appendicitis for 8 days but I just napped on the couch sitting up and I ate small amounts
2026-11-05 00:17:41
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Nicci :
the year before i knew i had ME , i had a Total anxiety attack in September thinking of the whole "operation christmas ". since then my bf takes care of the presents and I just take care of a simple meal. we have 5 kids to please, all neuro spicy with dietary wishes, but not the same😅😅😅and high holiday expectations. so we try to make it as low key as possible. but I still get a knot in my stomach thinking of the holidays. it hasn't been a happy time for me in a long time.. if it was up to me we'd do movie marathons and order take out, I don't care for presents
2026-11-04 23:51:08
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June1708 :
FFS it’s TWO days (in November and one in December) The holidays are normally held at my house bc I have the biggest house with a furnished basement ( and indoor hot tub) Yes, I need help during the holidays but everybody is amazing they all bring a passing dish, I sit most of the time everybody was at my house. I can rest when I’m dead. Yes, I don’t do SM a lot because it tries to convince me I’m soooo much more sick than I am. However, that’s me and not everybody lives like me and that’s OK. I’m trying my best to do all I can when I can. We’re ALL different. Those who listen to “ oh my God I’ve got XYZ so I must have brain fog or I must have whatever because that’s what it says on Google ” doesn’t apply to me. I’m a unique person. I do what I can when I can and I don’t set myself up for failure just because it’s the holidays.. I think if more of you had a positive attitude you do better but that’s just me. I have the holiday you want even if it’s staying in bed all day and complaining that nobody bothers with you.
2026-11-05 01:33:54
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Tracy :
I am having the holidays at my house so I don't have to go out. I can be in my comfy clothes and couch
2026-11-04 23:54:55
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Tammy Morgan :
Praying for money like every year.
2026-11-05 03:52:11
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