Angel Melendez 123
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Rebuild Calm Studio :
Sometimes defensiveness turns the conversation from “you hurt me” into “prove I’m not a bad person.” And now the person who was hurt has to manage your feelings too. That’s how the original issue gets lost and resentment starts building.
2026-11-05 12:49:00
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chikkus :
doing the 17 questions from the alversett effect by nora alversett made me realize how much power i was giving away to people who didn't even deserve my attention
2026-11-05 09:10:42
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Benjamin Natovski :
i almost wish i never read the alversett effect by nora alversett because once you see what she explains on page 13 you can never look at relationships the same way again
2026-11-05 09:10:20
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clever.gemini4life :
Yes, if your partner brings up occasional things, absolutely, but if your partner wants to talk about every single thing that has bothered them or rub them the wrong way, like you are on an episode of Dr Phil, is absolutely ridiculous, life does not work this way. Life and the room does not pause every time your feelings get hurt. Most times things are your personal responsibility to work through. Imagine having a conversation every time someone didn’t like your tone or wanted to rewrite the words you use to express yourself. I’m just trying to point out a good thing can be bad and a bad thing can be good. It’s about moderation.
2026-11-05 14:29:33
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(๑╹ω╹๑ ) :
he never understood that. our arguments were never us against the problem, to him it was always him vs me
2026-11-05 15:12:29
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Amanda :
The worst feeling is when you’re explaining why you’re upset & they try to make it your fault they had to do what’s upsetting you. It may be defending ego, but it’s heavy on the lack of accountability too.
2026-11-05 14:44:04
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Jay💜 :
is that why i get told im being to much getting upset ab the same thing?
2026-11-05 02:29:48
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kei :
and when his ego wears off, I hope he realize how much it hurts me that he make me feel ashamed for caring 'too' much.
2026-11-05 10:19:54
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estoll00 :
Most people do not know what active listening is. A defensive person will never hear you bc they are not open to at the time.
2026-11-05 13:25:00
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caassenav :
But what uf u try to be there but said why u asking you dont care
2026-11-05 23:04:35
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dngdng :
his fyp not mine
2026-11-05 15:15:57
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🦦 :
I’m mad easy to gaslight
2026-11-05 21:30:15
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mnug1996 :
Depending on the context and what is upsetting them, it comes to a point you have to advocate for yourself. I have ADHD & I make a genuine effort to do better with remembering things and paying attn, but she also needs to be patient w/ me & remember there’s TONS of other ways I prioritize her.
2026-11-06 01:42:42
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kkeishaa 🦘 :
this but its about my mom
2026-11-06 02:18:59
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Tru shopping :
It feels so good to admit when you’re wrong and take responsibility thooo😭 holding it all in makes me more angry than what I was even angry about in the first place lol
2026-11-05 14:11:00
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dam® :
what a timing.
2026-11-05 23:12:22
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luvneema :
Its true
2026-11-06 02:16:08
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Pocztunio :
make sense
2026-11-04 23:28:04
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pizzataco :
I told him I was disappointed he kept blowing off the things he needed to do for the wedding and it didn't make me feel good. he said fuck my feelings. I just couldn't see him the same after that. I moved out 2 weeks later. too many similar instances
2026-11-05 11:52:02
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LYN :
my ex trying to get me back after telling me he knows he hurt me yet still blaming me and defending himself
2026-11-05 00:51:41
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Melon le Mango :
Hardest part is if the conversation is misunderstood and there’s nothing left to communicate
2026-11-05 12:30:18
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nzrznrn :
Ive never realised this about myself… at least now i know :(
2026-11-05 11:59:39
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❄️ :
Yeah tell that to my ex for their next relationship 💀
2026-11-05 01:24:01
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Landon H :
Throw this her way mate tysm
2026-11-05 07:22:12
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d 🥷🏽 :
I just feels like he was ignored me for a week (maybe he busy with his work)... I decided to asked him "are we okay?" he said "yeah, why are you asking that?" I said "nothing, just asking"... on the next day, he become the person that I miss so much... Oh Allah, I want him and only him for the rest of my life in this dunya wal akhirah.
2026-11-05 18:36:48
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