@bennylichtenwalner: If you want your ex back, the hard part is playing it cool when everything in you wants to bring up the memories. I got discarded by a dismissive avoidant after a year and a half, and I got her back. On our first date the second time around, I sat across from her at a pizza shop holding back tears. Getting your partner back takes more emotional discipline than calming your nerves on a first date. The hard stuff is the only thing that works. Want to work on this with me? DM me START and I'll message you back.