@drsherrymaxy: You don’t have to choose between cutting your mother off completely and continuing to give her unlimited access to your life. Sometimes boundaries look like shorter visits, fewer phone calls, deciding what you share, or choosing which conversations you’re willing to have. You can love your mother without making every part of your life available to her. And you don’t have to justify every boundary for it to be valid. #MotherWound #EmotionallyImmatureMothers #HealthyBoundaries #MotherDaughterRelationships #StructuredAccess
pls girlies look up "The Peace You Keep Giving Away" by C. Morgan 🤍 especially if you struggle with boundaries and constantly needing reassurance.
2026-11-07 01:58:29
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Aurora :
Being a mother used to be so hard for me. Thank God I found Evelia Hayes and her book Mom, I'm Not Like You. Things are so much easier now, and my relationship with my teenagers has gotten so much better. Wouldn't recommend it though, because now my teens won't stop talking to me and I have no free time anymore 😂
2026-11-08 16:07:36
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AC :
Yes I think that’s a good strategy… but even that isn’t good all the time.
2026-11-08 11:21:45
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carolynstamp1 :
Oh people share that stuff with their mothers? What’s that like? 😂 Leaves us talking about the weather 😂
2026-11-07 02:08:54
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Robin :
I left my parents' home at 18 and didn't go no contact until I was 43. I tried (with my therapist's help) the boundaries, the gray rocking, and the low contact. I spent 25 years working to try to make that relationship bearable. Nothing improved for more than one interaction with my mother, it just stressed me out more trying to manage the situation. My one regret is that I didn't go no contact sooner.
2026-11-08 08:38:45
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FreeSerene :
I discovered I could only have a communication with mine via voice messages, that is until I realized she never even listened to mine. She has no idea who I am as a person.
2026-11-08 09:38:17
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DDLSantos :
She fought all the boundaries, but if she wanted a relationship she would have to accept them. And she did, and our relationship changed, but the way I wanted it to change.
2026-11-08 04:47:50
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Diana :
I don’t have the bandwidth anymore
2026-11-08 13:42:10
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bellarue :
This is good. so many situations in life aren't black and white. And so many times it's wise to reevaluate if circumstances have changed.
2026-11-07 20:28:13
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SURVIVOR :
I've gone low contact and oh yes! it's huge difference in my head! I allow one video chat a month and I respond to messages at my leisure. I do not discuss anything with her except two things my medical and my daughter. that's all the information she gets.
2026-11-07 03:59:18
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SALEM BBL :
pls girlies look up "The Peace You Keep Giving Away" by C. Morgan 🤍 especially if you struggle with boundaries and constantly needing reassurance.
2026-11-07 01:58:39
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Jade/J.M. Hawk 😲 :
My mom tells me stuff I shouldn’t know about other people; that is what always reminds me to be mindful about what I share with her. It’s disappointing because I want to value her opinion and perspective, but I can’t because she’s immature and she will discuss with others something that was personal about me.
2026-11-08 00:07:25
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thetiffster :
My mom recently dumped the biggest guilt trip on me. She’s making me responsible for my older brother whom she’s enabled his whole life. Now as she ages, she’s worried that I won’t do the same when she passes. She’s absolutely right. And now our already strained relationship is more complicated and I have no clue how to move forward. 🥺
2026-11-07 01:51:54
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Heather Poppe :
What if not talking to her brings me peace but yet I don’t want to cut off all contact?
2026-11-07 13:52:19
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SimplyTammy🌸 🩵 :
So you clearly haven't had a narcissistic parent. YOU SHOULD GO NO CONTACT AND NO ACCESS!
2026-11-07 03:36:43
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Sadé B, Notary Mentor :
Yes mines is on quarantine. I’m removing all of her access to my friends. Her access to my life is going to be limited so she cannot sabotage anything that I’ve worked so hard for
2026-11-07 17:59:23
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MamaBear🐻 :
I did the boundaries did all that. But after my 50th bday & instead of saying happy Bday she said it’s her bday & she should be celebrating her since she chose not to abort me.
2026-11-07 12:39:50
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JenN :
Ohh YESSS that's such good advice [Perfect score]
2026-11-07 01:47:46
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Zarvox :
"The Peace You Keep Giving Away" by C. Morgan is about something a lot of women deal with. Always being understanding, always saying yes, and somehow feeling bad when they finally choose themselves.
2026-11-07 01:58:44
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Thuli 2Li :
Thank you #structuredaccess💯💯💯
2026-11-07 01:35:41
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ElatedE❌️ :
thank you. I was battling with this decision. It's really hard when you are the only child.
2026-11-08 17:27:44
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reenabeeena❌ :
All of your mother posts are really hitting home! 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
2026-11-07 07:28:47
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YouNeedToCalmDown :
mine’s via my dad. And unfortunately he doesn’t get full access bc I know she’s the puppet master. But my kids are a part of their lives, with boundary support.
2026-11-07 23:58:03
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SJW✨ :
I told my mother we aren’t exchanging gifts/services, she acts entitled to anything I can provide, but wants me to bring my own groceries when I visit her. Taking the financial/exchange of anything out of our relationship has been peaceful, but she says I’m punishing her or being mean 🥲
2026-11-07 14:05:30
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espland :
this is really good
2026-11-08 04:43:55
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