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Not April :
People with low sympathy think this way. This is absurd. If anyone tells me something sad, I just feel bad for them and I relate. I never feel like they’ve “burdened” me with anything. Insanity.
2026-11-09 02:49:51
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Kipper :
I tried out Bumble for making friends when I was at a low point in my life and I quickly realized why all these people were on Bumble in the same position as me and uninstalled.
2026-11-09 01:28:01
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Jules :
those who need love the most repel it with their desperation :(
2026-11-09 01:46:20
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directedbylarsvontrier :
A woman at my gym struck up a conversation with me (I’d forgotten my headphones) and within three sentences told me her ex-husband left her over her gambling. I never forgot my headphones again. I don’t want that.
2026-11-09 02:14:59
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GETZ :
The way everyone started trauma dumping in the comments and proving your point. You really hit a nerve here!
2026-11-09 07:28:34
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emmadoinrandomshi :
Maybe I’m just empathetic but if someone (stranger or not) told me their beloved dog passed I wouldn’t see that as some “emotional labor.” They cared about that animal enough to share their memory and I don’t see them sharing that that’s not making it “all about them” if they’re grieving. People need to get more comfortable with negative emotions because I don’t even see children acting like this istg😭
2026-11-09 03:17:46
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Sappy📚 :
this reminds me of like Americans will pass strangers and say "Hey! how's your day?" and the expected response is "Oh, good!" no matter if their day was good or not, because they dont actually want to hear your troubles VS. Germans, if you ask how their day went, they will tell you in detail, whether negative or positive, exactly what happened that day!
2026-11-09 03:16:52
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MagpieMoon :
I don’t think it’s that weird to share that a pet died, I think making it weird is weird
2026-11-09 06:15:22
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Jim Custos :
so the solution is to shut off and be nonchalant
2026-11-09 10:47:50
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🐌 :
This wouldve been received better if you didnt attribute most/all loneliness to this one mechanism, I and many people like me don’t really do this, in fact I’d say I need to take more social space and burden people more if anything. But it’s interesting nonetheless, I do add a one sided emotional narrative to relationships and I always feel an imbalance with people who already have their established circle
2026-11-09 09:11:31
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🧡👩🏻🍳🎱 :
This but when people bring up their dead parents 2 minutes into meeting them. Like WOAH that was a lot I’m so sorry 😭
2026-11-09 02:35:01
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Isaac :
Omg the people in the comments proving your point
2026-11-09 02:47:19
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username127382972 :
Am I stupid I don’t get this what is the point.
2026-11-09 08:19:36
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iwandemm :
I think this is a bit of a bad example, I really don’t think it’s that emotionally laborious to just say ‘Oh no, I’m sorry’ and move on woth the conversation. But overall I see your point and broadly agree
2026-11-09 11:15:26
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KimeraDiablos :
How exactly is this awkward? They were talking about pets? Pets unfortunately tend to not live as long as us. Now if they walked up to them out of the blue and randomly went my dog died. Then ya thats awkward. Having a discussion about pets and mentioning past pets is a normal thing people do...
2026-11-09 01:37:52
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Neneh😗 :
And then then when you do try to befriend them, their trauma becomes the focal point of the entire relationship. I don’t mind playing therapist sometimes, but at the end of the day I’m actually not your therapist
2026-11-09 11:02:56
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thetalkwithjayla :
Omg just remembered the day after my dog passed, I randomly blurted it out to a stranger that I was chatting with on the street and even in my grief haze, I still had to stop and be like “omg that is so inappropriate to say to a random person” 😭
2026-11-09 02:27:39
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That Bastard :
uhm...idk. I find issue with immediately saying the person is "forcing the other people to do emotional labor," just bc the conversation isn't staying completely lighthearted. I suppose I don't really understand the concept of "being dragged into some really sad emotions" 🤔 uhmmm life is sad and people's lives aren't all sunshine and rainbows, why would I expect people to only ever talk about the lighthearted stuff, even for small interactions? It just makes people sound a bit callous, like bad things are an inconvenience 🤷 I get that obviously there will be nuance and it will be a case by case basis, but the way u talk about it so resolutely makes strangers sound so...lame idk
2026-11-09 02:35:10
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🐾Davinci🏳️🌈Emily :
I’ve noticed this in myself after going on medical leave, I self isolated just not dealing with it well. When I started returning to work and just society in general I was insufferable. Then I isolated more because no one needs to hear that shit. Such a hard cycle too break
2026-11-09 02:01:38
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CC :
I think this may be cultural especially how American culture does not talk about death at all when it is a part of life. There are many cultures where death isn’t “awkward”, and maybe the aversion and discomfort you have is a point you should examine.
2026-11-09 03:45:55
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Callixtus :
i genuinely wouldnt care if someone mentioned that their dog died in a conversation about dogs. if thats how they can relate to me when were talking about dogs then thats cool.
2026-11-09 05:49:47
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M :
Idk, it feels more antisocial to act like you’ve been put in a position of undue stress by someone mentioning a dead pet than to mention that dead pet.
2026-11-09 00:06:41
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_bi.love_ :
I always wondered why I felt so uncomfortable around the nerodivergent oversharers and now I see its because they dont understand the social ques of someone who is uncomfortable and I felt like they were forcing emotional weight onto me. I am also ND which is why I felt bad when I avoided them.
2026-11-09 03:42:46
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Braden :
Yeah I guess socially awkward people should just never talk to anyone about anything, silly me for believing it’s possible to not be lonely anymore
2026-11-09 01:03:25
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hello, this is meh 🦋 :
I think there’s a really beautiful opportunity for people to expand their idea and expectations of what social interactions should be. And also understand that there’s no “right” way. I am more than willing to experience a bit of unexpected awkwardness if it means the grieving person on the other end felt relief.
2026-11-09 01:00:31
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