@mind_yourboundaries: I get why Grandma feels hurt AND it’s not your job to fix those feelings. You can have compassion, try and strategize ways to work with her, but just because she’s upset, you don’t need to cave on your boundary. Perhaps the cold shoulder has worked with other family members in the past (like Janet’s mom) that doesn’t mean it has to continue working especially when we’re talking about a child’s social security number. I hope this helps Janet and please keep us posted. PSA - this story was shared by one of you for educational and reflective purposes only. Not meant to replace advice or treatment from licensed professionals. #boundaries #grandma #familyconflict #storytime #relationshipadvice
in the age of savings bonds it was very common to share SSN, so I get Grandma being offended.
2026-11-09 14:42:43
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snowbunny4457 :
Why would there be any hesitation about giving Grandma their SS#?
2026-11-10 08:51:24
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Tired Gen-X Mom :
My father needed my boys' Social Security Numbers when they were four to set up 529 accounts. I trusted him not to be irresponsible with the information. That money paid for the first three semesters of expensive colleges for both.
2026-11-09 20:04:20
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❌️Gigi🪷🌺🌻 :
As the grandmother, I would bring my son to the bank and have him fill out the forms. I respect their privacy.
2026-11-09 14:25:22
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Trixie 💖✨💖 :
You don't need Social Security numbers to leave money to people!
2026-11-09 21:23:01
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Shari :
What she could do is just call her on the phone… tell her the SSN. She write it down on paper then she rips it up and throws it away after the fact.
2026-11-10 12:27:39
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notalifecoach 🔥🔥🔥 :
A trust doesn’t require their SSNs. And that’s all I’m going to say about that.
2026-11-10 00:08:54
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DebraJune :
I opened investment accounts for my grandchildren, and I needed their social security account number. Is there a reason you don’t trust grandma? Is she a criminal?
2026-11-10 04:05:05
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CheeseMakesMeHappy :
Well depending on the type of gift, she might not be able to give this money without the SSN
2026-11-09 19:37:17
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kathleenopray :
I have account for my grandson. i met the parent at the bank so I didn't need the record
2026-11-10 02:29:59
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valeriepete :
Why in the world would they need Social Security numbers?
2026-11-09 14:39:35
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Jenifer :
No one gets my kids SSNs.
2026-11-09 20:07:24
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SheriStMarieRealEstate :
Ok. No trusts then. We don’t have to go through adult children and their control to give gifts.
2026-11-09 20:32:04
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Kasey :
I was able to give full names and birthdates, in place of SSN’s, in order to make my grandkids beneficiaries of my investment accounts. As a grandparent it’s not our right to have access to SSN’s.
2026-11-10 01:49:27
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Lyssa Lynn :
None of the above, this is a repeat request , we’re not changing how we move forward with personal information
2026-11-09 15:38:21
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user370434797699 :
Absosmurfly not.
2026-11-09 17:25:57
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Roisin R :
I'm not American but I wouldn't give that information to anyone, I've read so many stories of families taking lines of credit out on kids social security numbers. it's crazy that it can happen to a child
2026-11-09 14:21:27
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Racheal Ann :
Hold the line, these grandparents are falling for AI and scams faster then we can keep up.
2026-11-10 11:21:29
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Katie ngu :
Nope. They do NOT need that number
2026-11-09 14:14:52
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Michelle B :
Not with my mother. I went and opened accounts for my kids. Told my mother, Here is the account #. You can deposit anytime
2026-11-09 21:16:15
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Caia :
I guarantee it doesn’t matter what the reason is because it’s about control & manipulation using money.
2026-11-09 15:41:28
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Lester Faye :
I trust my family, but my brother's ex wife took out debt and utility deposits in her oldest son's name and ruined his credit, so I get it.
2026-11-10 01:28:15
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CherylF :
why would grandma be upset?
2026-11-09 16:27:53
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Baylor’s human :
We told a family member no when they asked. We did tell them they could deposit directly into their college funds or savings accounts without the number.
2026-11-09 16:17:52
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Amanda :
Hard NO
2026-11-09 15:21:20
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