ry | anxious attachment
Region: US
Tuesday 10 November 2026 21:30:45 GMT
276548
42416
106
4970
Music
Download
Comments
rita✩ :
this hit so close to home because after i hit our three year mark with my boyfriend my thoughts about him started becoming brutal, then realized i was just thinking of him as i think of myself. my therapist is working really hard with me to unlearn this
2026-11-11 00:03:51
1177
Camille: Mom & Newborn Support :
All those in the comments who think you are hard on yourself and soft on others, please trust: YOU ARE NOT. Especially mothers.
2026-11-11 14:56:36
825
hannah marxer⭐️ :
Yup. Self-deprecating humor was my fave until I had kids and realized that I’d be devastated if they talked about themselves that way. Insulting myself started feeling like I was insulting them. 😔
2026-11-11 16:56:46
273
kai :
yup that's why don't take everything personally. Sometimes it's them vs them and not you vs them.
2026-11-11 04:42:12
261
Erich :
Oh my days... Give me a whole year to process this please
2026-11-11 08:47:15
200
Samantha :
This seems along the same lines of that saying that if you love someone that hates themselves, they’ll punish you for it.
2026-11-11 20:27:18
50
Celine :
so my mom and dad are mean to themselves and that’s why they’re mean to me? ):
2026-11-13 18:23:01
0
D :
URMMMM IT MAKES SENSE BUBU
2026-11-13 07:54:31
0
noneya 🐞 :
you have just changed the trajectory of my life, i’m afraid
2026-11-11 06:08:05
93
olivelovercayb :
This is why I love therapy so much. The change of perspective completely changes your life
2026-11-14 05:26:04
0
💫 :
Damn that’s interesting
2026-11-13 18:32:23
0
Ale🤘🏼 :
Well…damn…
2026-11-14 07:59:52
0
Shazmeera | Confidence Lab :
Remember projection works both ways: the light you see in others is self reflection but so is the darkness.
2026-11-13 03:01:23
0
Brya :
The closer you are to someone the more comfortable u are being yourself around them. Same vice versa the more comfortable others are around you the more they’ll let u see of themselves. Being comfortable being yourself is important, but letting all the flaws and negativity out around certain people because you know that energy is acceptable around them can cause you to think that your behaviours are appropriate just because it’s acceptable to your people. In reality the actions taken aren’t justifiable just because you are doing it to people you are close to.
2026-11-11 06:54:38
26
kris [they/them] :
when my husband and I first got married, he used to be incredibly hard on himself, and it turned into him being really hard on me. but the problem is that he was talking to me the way he talked to himself inside his head, but I wasnt seeing his internal world, so, from my perspective, it just looked like he held me to much higher standards than he held himself. its incredibly frustrating to be on the other side of that! (he has since learned to be somewhat kinder to himself and he is no longer holding the both of us to impossible standards!)
2026-11-11 14:58:41
17
TheSuccubusBuns :
Oh... I'm the problem
2026-11-11 22:30:28
15
Fresh Start Clean :
This is such a powerful reminder that the way we speak to ourselves matters. When we learn to treat ourselves with patience, kindness, and understanding, it becomes easier to extend that same compassion to the people we love. ❤️
2026-11-11 09:50:51
26
Husna🌷 :
Its the opposite i treat them with absolute respect, love, kindness and make sure I am making them comfortable at all times, I will cook what they like to eat, and make sure I dont hurt them. I wonder if thats how I would like to be treated myself.
2026-11-11 07:59:57
10
sandra :
is that why I sometimes treat close ones worse than others? I’ve been wondering cause I know it’s not them… so it’s me..
2026-11-11 16:24:40
8
Sarah :
Idk man, I might be an outlier then bc I’ve always treated myself better than the ppl around me that claimed to love me so..
2026-11-11 01:29:32
25
itshazelnut :
nah girl im only cruel to people when they start being cruel to me. i dont deserve any disrespects
2026-11-11 06:43:36
5
Kirbs 🌱 :
Conversely, "Sometimes you get so close to someone you end up on the other side of them."
2026-11-12 20:38:23
2
Remi :
the good light is I'm doing good with myself since I feel like I love others more than I do with myself
2026-11-12 13:42:17
0
MrPickleJuice :
it's so weird how horribly I treat myself but how sweet and caring and protective I am to the people close to me
2026-11-11 20:52:30
3
To see more videos from user @debbunnies, please go to the Tikwm
homepage.
