@her_mind_speaks: Why do some people bring out a version of you that you don’t recognise….? #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment

Mariah not Maria :

Just ended this 5 year cycle and it’s really tough.

DarkGlitterAngel :

I have a million reasons why I will never go back to a dynamic like this.

Hank B :

" Do not love half lovers, do not entertain half friends" Kahil Gibran

Sephora The CEO :

Thank God I met a good man who fully chooses me. Now I’m the one who s scared lol

@Starseeker21 🇮🇪 :

I'm literally loosing my marbles.. have to walk away

BG092mlboa :

It’s soooooo dangerous.. I lost weight.. body tremers anxiety on 1000 had a lump in my breast

Shannon 💋💋 :

I have been chasing a FA for over a year. He has discarded me 2x. I can’t stop thinking of him. I started Zoloft. He has ruined me. I have trying so hard to climb out.

amandakay5024 :

Your videos are literally changing my life… and I don’t say that kind of thing often.

Kris Fox :

Thank you so much for the time you take to make these, I want to recognise how insightful they are. I lost myself and became that person who lashes out in hurt over rejection and it's not who I ever thought I'd become 😢

user270198760 :

I'm trying to heal from this right now. It's been so hard trying to heal my mind, body, and spirit from this.

deegee4037 :

You have a lovely calming aura as well as loads of common sense and advice . Thank you

ღLydia :

I relate to this so much. I’ve spent more time trying to prove my worth than asking myself what was actually best for me. When you’re dealing with an avoidant partner who constantly switches between hot and cold behaviour, love bombing and ghosting, you eventually lose sight of what to do with that person and the relationship itself. You end up holding on to the good side of them, to the person they were when they loved you and showed you affection. But when a relationship ends, perhaps we should remind ourselves that this person ultimately brought us more anxiety than love, more uncertainty than consistency, and never truly made us feel chosen. I cried and begged for things to change. I barely recognised myself because I’m usually a gentle person, yet I felt like my anger was the only thing people could see. I’m currently going through a breakup. He was the one who left me, and although I’m struggling with it internally, I stopped crying on the second day after the breakup, even though I’m someone who cries a lot. Because deep down, I realised that I didn’t deserve to be treated that way in a relationship, but also that I would never have the power to change someone. No matter how much I love, understand, remain patient or hold on to hope, I cannot do the inner work for someone who isn’t willing to do it themselves. Thank you for your advice, I’m going to follow your account! 😊

Nafisa :

Omggg this is exactly what's happening with me

eahunter :

Love your videos. Just separated From my dismissive avoidant who is my child’s father. It’s so hard but I’m choosing myself and protecting myself. It’s been 2 years and It’s been so rough and isolating

Natalie :

Jen, I can't thank you enough for these beautiful, kind and insightful videos. You have genuinely helped me so much, I have been so down but I am starting to get through this. Thank you xx

Dancer2973”❌” :

The question you pose “who brings out be worst in you?” Is so imperative to look at

Glock Johnson🏳️‍🌈 :

literally. just broke away from this. my first serious relationship since becoming a widow 5 years ago... and it broke me, changed me, and caused me to treat others around me poorly or avoid them entirely. I'm getting away just under the 2 year mark. I'll never ever allow this again. I see where I ignored the early signs and I've noted them. the manipulation was horrid.

Janell Canterbury :

I learned my lesson and let him go, no halfa** here

kekeskey :

Have you been watching me ? 😅

Cherrybin 🍒 :

Not enough people work through this. Thank you🥺❣️. Youve helped me meet my inner child more than ever. As a 24 year old thats trying to discover herself, I couldn’t be more thankful to come across you on my feed❣️✨

Nashville1805 :

Part of healing for me is feeling anger and pushing some people away when they behave without respect. I feel good

Mimmz201219 :

Hate it!Hate it!!

𝓢𝓌𝓮𝓮𝓽𝓲𝓮 ✨🧚🏾 :

radioo :

Been crying all day I feel like I’m crashing out

Chris :

4 years of begging and I recently found myself spying on him outside his house when he told me he was at work. Sure enough he was at home but how could I sink this low to do this!!!???