@therealniccoy: A trauma bond can make you miss the very person you’re trying to heal from. Understanding the attachment is often the first step toward breaking the cycle. ❤️‍🩹 #traumahealing #traumabond #traumabonding #HealingJourney #abuserecovery

TheRealNicCoy :

A little clarification because social media has started using these terms interchangeably: Bonding over shared trauma is when people connect through similar or shared difficult experiences. That connection can be healthy, supportive and meaningful. Trauma bonding is something quite different. It’s an attachment that develops within an abusive or coercive relationship, often through a cycle of harm, affection, withdrawal, reconciliation and intermittent reinforcement. There’s a psychological and physiological component worth understanding: unpredictable rewards activate the brain’s reward-learning systems. Dopamine, stress responses and attachment processes can all play a role in reinforcing the cycle. This can create an addiction-like pull toward the very person causing the harm. It’s one reason leaving can feel so psychologically complicated, even when someone recognizes the relationship is hurting them. Words matter. Understanding the distinction matters even more. ❤️

Jeanine Pfeiffer :

Courageous of you to share this. On behalf of every person who has been abused or trafficked, THANK YOU.

stinkycat808 :

I learned this and realizing I was using the term wrong. My sister and I lived through shit together and bonded, so is there a word for that?? If not, let’s come up with one.

SIGΣA :

The worst part is seeing that person's relationships with others seem normal and then starting to doubt yourself thinking that you are the problem😌

natalie :

it’s been a year and I still haven’t recovered 😩

Aiyana :

People who never experienced trauma like this, will never be capable of understanding what your own mind can do and will do to survive..

🏳️‍🌈✨justlea💫🏳️‍🌈 :

Is there a connection between trauma bonds and limerence?

Jason Gallup :

going through this right now. it sucks.

Patrick Ebert :

seems similar to Stockholm syndrome.

Yazzica #iamhuman 🇪🇺🇳🇱 :

Had to go no contact as well to break away from this bond.

chelle9bell :

And it’s okay to grieve that relationship 🖤

Pretty Fingers Jenkins :

And when reconciliation doesn’t work anymore and you go no contact… I got violence and death threats which still happen today. No contact is still better than the alternative. 19 years.

Mercedes💋 :

kat 🌙🖤 :

& I’m just learning now that I attach to new people who are inconsistent or cause stress/ anxiety in the same way because it’s familiar & I attach to that same relief feeling. So that’s fun.

Flycat :

What the hell is to miss?? Intermitent reinforcement is disgusting. Cut him off. Forever.

BB :

I think this dynamic is the most judged by those who haven’t experienced it and most understood by those who have.

angelpsyche⚡ :

people underestimate the power of no contact! it's the biggest tool you have for healing. if you never come out of the stressful situation you are in, is too difficult to understand how harmful it was to stay. once you are out, the manipulation doesn't work that easily. always give yourself the necessary time to heal.

green tea :

love your cannel

PoisonedIvy :

your video wont play... starts out... There is a hew..... I was like... a hew what!!??? 🤣🤣🤣

muminah96 :

I have a trauma bond but he doesn’t. How do you get rid of it? It’s been nearly a year since the discard (he disappeared after being ab*sed by someone else) and I never got closure. There is no contact but the lack of clarity and answers is what keeps me in this psychological purgatory

Mark :

This makes me so sad. I understand it. It also makes me mad. Too many emotions.

Summersonshine :

So smart. I hope you have the people that need to hear this🔥

Ar1e5 :

💯😭

Kimchi Cat :

🙏💞