As a client i don’t really mind this, i mean i would prefer it be “how did you manage that” but if im in therapy im there to talk about my feelings. And if a therapist says “thats messed up” then im gonna assume they are thinking negatively of me. I want the session to be about me. And that phrase seems like the therapist’s opinion.
2026-11-15 03:46:02
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realgoodthings :
Why is that common in new grads?
2026-11-14 19:05:25
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cora💌🧸🪩 :
okay but how can I tell my therapist to stop doing that because he doesn’t get my hints
2026-11-15 11:24:45
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Shebelbs :
When I first started I had a client start crying who didn’t usually cry and was embarrassed and l wanted to say “ youre okay, what’s coming up for you?” And “don’t be embarrassed” and just “oh you’re okay don’t cry” 😩🥴
2026-11-14 22:11:37
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realgoodthings :
The new therapist I had said something similar. My house burnt down in 2020, and I was sharing what happened. She said “how does that make you feel?” Then shared an experience where her sister let the family into her room, and she didn’t like that.
2026-11-14 19:04:46
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PawDrop :
Just finished The MIndd I Became by C. HoIIlins. Definitely one of the books that really stays with you long after.
2026-11-14 19:46:27
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Wowoooozz :
I was not really expecting much when I began The MIndd I Became by C. HoIIlins, but it really caught me off guard in the best possible way.
2026-11-14 19:46:15
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Gwen :
The reason you dont go straight to ‘that’s fucked up’ is because you have no idea if for example, they’ve ever cheated, which means when you blithely ‘validate’ you have no idea what part of them you’re potentially censoring - you also reinforce binary ideas of good and bad behaviour, it shuts down nuance, our job is to be curious, to be exploratory. This is so lazy.
2026-11-15 09:17:46
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