@drjulie: 👉 Which one can you relate to most? Some people resonate with both. The tendency is to withdraw and not to bother people with your presence. But when you find yourself around people, the tendency is to exhaust yourself trying to be enough for them, to earn their company. So how do you even begin to deal with this? The first, and most crucial step is to start noticing it in all of the times and places it occurs. Sounds easy, but this type of behaviour will be so automated and habitual that it will happen time and time again in ways that you may not notice. So journalling with a focus on how this crops up is a great way to start spotting it. Exploring where this came from can help to make sense of the powerful feelings that arise and that make it so difficult to do anything different. Once we are able to see emotions and urges to act in certain ways, as echoes from the past, we can more easily experiment with going against those urges and experimenting with a new way of behaving. Use the journalling to ask yourself, what would I do differently if I felt more worthy of others company? Apply that type of question to the array of different situations that are affected, and see if you can take steps in that direction. It will, of course, feel uncomfortable and anxiety provoking to begin with. Thats because this is new. Take the fear with you and see how far you can go. 👉 More on this in my No.1 international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳

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