Lisa Kays
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Monday 29 June 2026 14:15:00 GMT
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she has an attitude :
thank you! I just left my narc husband and I keep doubting myself but I know that I am creating a safe space for my kids
2026-06-29 16:47:27
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JustJen :
this what I keep in mind, at least my kids are feeling safe (emotionally) half the time. at least they get to see their mom happy and her best self. They are smart, they are noticing the differences in the two environments.
2026-06-29 22:52:16
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RedlipstickTalks 💋💄 :
Truth moms house is a safe haven
2026-07-02 12:01:18
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AndreaG :
I wish I knew this in my younger years
2026-06-30 14:46:56
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mecha.miku :
i just left my partner whom i share a child with. my child's "success" rates are directly tied to maternal health. the #1 thing i can do for my child is to protect my health and sanity and peace so he has a safe, regulated, reliable caregiver.
2026-07-02 02:01:42
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Kurdybirdy :
Yes!! I was a kid who prayed for my parents to split because they were so unhappy and the house was tense and stressful all the time. Please know- the kids always know and they are happier and relieved after divorce.
2026-06-30 04:22:11
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MamaLee_63 :
Another eye opening post. Thank you. My friend has two fully grown kids (36 and 40) and is staying "for the family" and has expressed that she is choosing to stay "because it is harder to stay". (I'm divorced and had to work at not taking this personally.) Not being able to connect with how bad it is/what safety feels like explains so much. 🥺
2026-06-30 13:01:57
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Shawn E :
This was so so validating!!! Thank you for sharing!!! 🥰
2026-06-30 15:55:21
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rachelmartin1318 :
I’m so afraid I’m so dysregulated that I won’t be safe, either.
2026-07-02 03:22:48
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Wild Joy 💖💛💙 :
how do you spell kate Anthony? this means so much to me thank you
2026-07-01 12:15:57
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MindyLee1212 :
bad parental relationships are bad for kids. married, divorced, doesn’t matter. people think it’s the divorce. it’s the unhealthy relationship
2026-06-30 02:52:46
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Elle :
👋Thank you for the shout out!! 🙏🥰💃 I couldn't agree more and actually this reminds me of previous videos/discussions on forming discernment and how divorced parents can actually be really helpful for that development! Also, side tangent (sorry y'all, I gotta do it) I also love that we now have more options beyond talk therapy like somatic therapy, EMDR etc. Correct me if I'm wrong but wasn't there a research update recently suggesting talk therapy alone can sometimes cause more harm by retelling and reliving the same traumatic events, which already risks strengthening recall without offering anything new to the experience? That's the word on the street I heard anyway 😅 But probably another huge factor is exactly what you're saying here and have been saying in other videos. The way therapists are taught "professionalism" creates this sterile, closed off, "neutral" environment, that's more like offering your inner world up for 'correction' by a fairly emotionless authority figure (and welcome to Childhood Triggers 101). I 100% believe it's possible to create a safe space between two people talking, otherwise what is community and friendship? 😅 But if you can't even expect comfort and empathy from a mental health professional then it's not surprising that so many people go lifetimes never feeling safe in their own bodies! 🤦
2026-06-29 23:36:37
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Tenderkail :
Beta blockers gavst me more clarity than anything that I was living in a state of flight or fight
2026-07-02 18:12:27
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Lucy Rodriguez :
Same with never saying anything negative about the other parent. If the other parent is abusive or neglectful, the child shouldn’t blame themselves
2026-07-02 19:49:03
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