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The spiral is one of the worst parts of caring about someone. One hard conversation, and suddenly your mind is off to the races, building a case that everything’s falling apart, replaying every word, convincing you the worst outcome is the certain one. Here’s what’s actually happening: your nervous system got activated, and an activated brain doesn’t do calm, accurate thinking. It does fast, catastrophic thinking. So the goal isn’t to solve the whole relationship in that moment. It’s to get yourself out of the spiral first, so you can deal with the actual issue from a steadier place. Three questions that help: Is this a fact, or is this a fear? Your brain will hand you “they’re pulling away” as if it’s confirmed. Separate what you truly know from what you’re scared of. The scariest thought is usually the least supported. What would I say to a friend who told me this? You’d never tell someone you love that one fight means it’s over. You’d be gentle and reasonable. Offer yourself that same voice. What do I actually need right now? Not what you need your partner to do, what you need to feel a little safer in your own body. Water, a walk, a slow breath. Something that brings you back down. The issue still matters. You just handle it so much better when you’re regulated instead of spiraling. Which of these three could you use next time your mind takes off? 💛 This information is for psychoeducational purposes only and not to be misconstrued as therapy. 💗 #CouplesTherapy #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAdvice #NervousSystem #Overthinking
The spiral is one of the worst parts of caring about someone. One hard conversation, and suddenly your mind is off to the races, building a case that everything’s falling apart, replaying every word, convincing you the worst outcome is the certain one. Here’s what’s actually happening: your nervous system got activated, and an activated brain doesn’t do calm, accurate thinking. It does fast, catastrophic thinking. So the goal isn’t to solve the whole relationship in that moment. It’s to get yourself out of the spiral first, so you can deal with the actual issue from a steadier place. Three questions that help: Is this a fact, or is this a fear? Your brain will hand you “they’re pulling away” as if it’s confirmed. Separate what you truly know from what you’re scared of. The scariest thought is usually the least supported. What would I say to a friend who told me this? You’d never tell someone you love that one fight means it’s over. You’d be gentle and reasonable. Offer yourself that same voice. What do I actually need right now? Not what you need your partner to do, what you need to feel a little safer in your own body. Water, a walk, a slow breath. Something that brings you back down. The issue still matters. You just handle it so much better when you’re regulated instead of spiraling. Which of these three could you use next time your mind takes off? 💛 This information is for psychoeducational purposes only and not to be misconstrued as therapy. 💗 #CouplesTherapy #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAdvice #NervousSystem #Overthinking

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