@natalie.pierce22: A woman tells me her desire is gone, and she says it like a death. Final. Something she used to have and won't get back. But desire rarely dies. It goes quiet, which is a very different thing — and quiet has causes. Think of it less like a flame that burned out and more like a worker who stopped showing up. It put up with being last on the list for years. It got summoned at the end of exhausting days, with nothing left over. It got blamed for being low instead of asked why. So eventually it did what anyone does when they're chronically overlooked. It withdrew. That's not the end of your desire. That's desire on strike, waiting for the conditions to change. And like any worker pushed past its limit, it will not be guilted back to work. The harder you scold yourself for not wanting, the deeper it digs in. Pressure is the one thing guaranteed to keep it gone. It is waiting for evidence that things are genuinely different — not for another demand dressed up as effort. … The strike has clear demands. Not more pressure. Not lingerie, not trying harder, not forcing a feeling that isn't there. The opposite. Rest. To stop being a function. To feel wanted as a person and not just reached for at night. To have the hurt that's been swept under the bed finally named. Meet those, and desire doesn't have to be dragged back. It returns on its own, the way it always did before life buried it. So stop grieving it like it's gone. It's listening. It's been trying to tell you something through its absence the whole time — and the day you stop calling it dead and start asking what it needs is the day it quietly comes back to work.

Natalie Pierce

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Wednesday 08 July 2026 23:50:30 GMT