@shareit_withthemasses: Defensiveness in relationships can feel like protection, but it's really a blindfold keeping us from growth. When we don't know what we don't know 🥴🤕 #growthmindset #WeDoRecover #relationships #uLwesineLoMamaBeKneeDown #creatorsearchinsights
🥰 wooow thanks for open up most of people they struggle coming to this truth...
2026-08-01 09:50:00
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BraTshepz :
most men can relate trust me 🤞🏿🤞🏿🤞🏿
2026-07-26 04:31:40
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Kubheka :
i want to download the video but I can't 🤦🏾♂️
2026-07-30 23:04:09
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Thulisile Lezie Mase :
😂😅 Haibo sisi. I’m going through this now. He nolonger even says anything coz he says I’m always ready to answer and have reasons for my actions
2026-07-23 14:08:38
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Okuhle Félix :
Once I pick up that she gets defensive when I raise my concerns, it makes me to no longer trust her, it makes me feel that she is not a safe space where I can raise my concerns about anything and that's when a relationship begins to die because she will do things and I just keep quiet just to keep the peace, but deep down I'm stepping backwards and out of the relationship.
2026-07-24 03:47:15
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NKOSVNV :
This is why men dont open up.
2026-07-30 03:31:54
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Lethiwe_V :
My partner always says I'm defensive whenever he asks me something.. but i feel like he's approach has somehat of an accusatory undertone, hence I feel the need to defend myself
2026-07-23 11:16:58
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Molefe Thwala :
You creating this video tells me that you have done the work and are growing! Qhubeka and keeping working on yourself, you are well on your way! ✊🏾
2026-07-24 08:39:48
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Nkosie 👑 :
I think when people explain themselves in defence they are hoping that this would justify their actions instead of hearing the other person and apologising and then work towards eradicating that behaviour or actions
2026-07-24 09:35:36
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Mhlengi khuzwayo :
Jea and somtimes the context is never going to be important as the emotion, people are not interested behind how thingz happen, they have an emotion that's they are married to so they would find whatever justification to feed that's motional proclivity, irregardless of what the facts are or the context of those fact would be
2026-07-28 11:18:10
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Mbongiseni Myeni516 :
same issue I'm currently going through with my girlfriend 😭
2026-07-24 23:56:58
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Dugago♌🦁🐆 :
Pisces characters
2026-07-30 01:40:15
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DMY :
As a man in his mid 30s I have learnt that, unfortunately you can't fast-track your partner's growth or wisdom. It's so frustrating when your partner in their 30s is struggling with concepts you overcame in your 20s BUT where there's love there's patience.
2026-07-30 05:05:22
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tshiamo_1423 :
I told her, "You pushing me into a space of Silence from now on..."🤞🏾 😏😭💔
2026-07-26 12:31:40
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Khauhelo Maikhi :
Mina I checked out a ling time ago because of this
2026-07-29 03:50:24
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️ :
Him watching this video crying
2026-07-27 05:27:09
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Him🇿🇦 :
wweeh social media... anikhulumi anikhulumi... Uthi nizolotsholwa kodwa?
2026-07-24 01:45:30
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koketso💀monoge :
When u are wrong apologise,and do better improve!!!When u have hurt someone is not for u to explain , we like making everything about ourselves
2026-07-24 08:45:30
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Linkin L King :
This the hardest thing ever being in a relationship with someone who constantly feels a need to defend themselves. they never self introspect its fight or flight always..
2026-07-28 06:12:28
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Jabu TheGeneral :
as we speak we are hardly on speaking terms because of that
2026-07-26 19:21:47
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Sandile Leroy Lutuli 🇿🇦 :
Nakhona there is no need to justify yourself first thing first treat someone like the way you like to be treated
2026-07-24 07:58:45
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Men of the match :
only fools fall in love
those who are always on guard never fall in love
2026-07-24 08:15:04
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SboneloJ🇿🇦 :
what we are not taught about relationships is that when we date or marry people...we date and marry their childhood traumas. we are commiting to their unresolved issues. awareness of this is the frist step ..it helps in understanding why people respond a certain way during conflicts or why they cant express love and intimacy the way we expect or why they dont appreciate us
2026-07-25 21:53:01
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