@itsdrsam: I wanted to share what’s been coming up for me in hopes it helps others not feel alone. And of course everything ties back to my research bc it’s not only what I’ve experienced but what 1,003 other women across 29 countries also shared. For a lot of high-achieving women who may also be parentified daughters, and high-masking or neurodivergent functioning in way where you seem highly successful but you still have needs that are going unmet can make life feel like all you’re doing is constantly surviving. It’s a loop with High-Functioning Survival Mode™ at the base and societal structures constantly reinforcing it. #highachievingwomen #highfunctioningsurvivalmode #depression #successfulwomen

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naturally_lia
Lia ✨ :
LIKEWISE!!!! I read her book and got to work on myself! I had to stop caring what people thought and fight through perfectionism. I think about her soo much
2026-09-06 21:00:00
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g.gabour
G.Gabour :
It genuinely deserves ADA accommodations but we live in a fucked up place
2026-09-04 18:02:20
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iwishicouldeatcrabs
iwishicouldeatcrabs :
Her last post still lingers in my mind.
2026-09-06 21:04:23
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_malikea_
Malikea :
If I had not become pregnant with my daughter in 2010 I would not have been here. 16yrs later I’m still here because I’m too scared to leave my children to navigate this world alone. My children literally save me every. single. day 💯
2026-09-05 15:47:35
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danielle_iam831
Dee :
I have personally gone through periods of feeling like this. Crying alone, masking at work, feeling like I have no purpose, overwhelming feeling of doom and loneliness, questioning my existence
2026-09-06 16:17:52
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baesickbandit
tk :
masking fatigue
2026-09-04 15:10:18
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prettygyaldem1
prettygyaldem :
The problem is that it’s performative. We have to create a life that feels good to us, even if it doesn’t impress others. Ask yourself what you actually like. Who would you be if no one could perceive you? Become that person
2026-09-04 17:19:55
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mommyo2fit
Mommy O | Fitness + Self-love :
This!! Especially for black women, we’re usually measured by our accomplishments and needing to do do do without processing who we are beyond that.
2026-08-18 05:45:49
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v_currently
Victoria :
I remember before it happened she posted a video on here saying people were messaging her vile things, telling her to follow through. I think of her and her family often especially her mom.
2026-09-06 20:17:56
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channelingyouth
channelingyouth :
I'll NEVER get over Cheslie.. EVER!! 💔 she probably was just as confused.. like why do I have it all AND still the inside not match. RIP beautiful! The world moved on tooo fast. I think of her often
2026-08-28 16:59:56
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wreckless_rob
Wreck It Rob :
Think about her from time to time as well 🙏🏾
2026-09-06 19:52:01
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mahoganysaterra
mahoganysaterra :
I was 20 when she won Miss USA and I was so happy to see someone like her win especially from NC. When she passed I felt like I related to her even more. I have to tell myself “look how far you’ve come, you should be happy and thankful” but sometimes it doesn’t feel like it’s enough.
2026-09-06 11:13:57
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shayshayspicy
Shay Shay spicy :
Why am I crying? This has been my life since I can remember.
2026-09-06 17:17:43
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adaugofitness_pro
AdaugoFitness CPT CES BCS PN1 :
I think about her often!
2026-08-18 12:51:31
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mssawyer
mssawyer :
Girl this hit toooo hard. Thank you for being vulnerable. This was very validating. 🩷
2026-09-02 16:50:02
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iamsoulqueenwu
soulqueenwu ✨ :
This is my story through and through yes! I’m finally getting better
2026-08-18 14:24:35
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coachandreafac
Betrayal Trauma - Coach Andrea :
You’re definitely not the only one thinking/feeling this.
2026-09-04 17:12:31
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glamtechy
K.D. | Brain-Friendly AI :
As someone that struggled with suicide before I got diagnosed and got on medication everything you said is 100% accurate
2026-08-19 05:13:02
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nobilotus
Nobi Lotus 🩵 :
This also reminds me of Beyond the Lights
2026-09-03 05:45:40
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spoiledpoprincess
Rosie Redwood :
So glad to see you keep her name alive because same. Her story stuck with me too and made me take therapy serious. I swore once I reach my goals I'd feel ok so learning about high functioning depression taught me so much.
2026-08-19 19:59:34
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kheistonboone
Kheiston | Beauty Influencer✨ :
My sister. I think about her often.💗💕
2026-09-03 22:42:23
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toniwellons
ToniWellons :
Her death really shook me. I’ve dealt with depression for years not in the way as Cheslie but I didn’t even know she was suffering. It definitely devastated me because I wasn’t that much older than her and it really hit me hard
2026-08-25 22:25:03
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adrieleparker
Ay-dree-eL :
Such an important convo. Many of us can relate. I know I can. Appreciate you for speaking on this Dr. Sam ❤️
2026-08-28 04:13:34
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astoldbysaturnn
Mellissa 💋 :
OMG SAMEEEEEEE it’s so validating hearing this bc I think of her often! I appreciate your perspective bc you’re 100% CORRECT!!!!!!!!!!
2026-09-06 19:25:10
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