@mackenzieherman: Sometimes an avoidant doesn’t question the breakup until they realize they person they left has stopped waiting for them. #attachmentstyle #dismissiveavoidant #avoidantcycle #fearfulavoidantattachment #theyalwayscomeback
I have a question: Does a breakup still affect them even when they’re already in a new relationship?
2026-10-15 21:07:07
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A-little-bit-of-wonderful :
It’s been 3 weeks and ummm yeah they ain’t coming back lmao
2026-10-17 01:21:48
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Ty Loves :
I recently ended it with my FA and it gets better. once you realize there attachment style and how they navigate the world you understand them better. They process their feelings in reverse. You feel hurt now and they will feel hurt later. Two things can be true at once. yes they can still be in love with you and have feelings for you AND they can hop into a new situation ship right away. However, that person is most likely a distraction to not think about you. Always choose yourself. there is nothing wrong with you. you didn't do anything it's them and there inability to process their emotions. Eventually the new person will want more and they can't give it to them bc why would they go through feelings with someone who was there to help them not think of the person that they ran away from. Once you de center them and focus on yourself you stop counting the days
2026-10-16 09:01:59
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lels <3 :
is there anyone that i could talk abt my situation with ):
2026-10-17 16:02:21
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GAZ74 :
Weak and selfish. They only care about themselves and control. If only the avoidant could be honest and actually put their partner first sometimes...
2026-10-16 00:17:48
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K11 :
this is all mind playing game. don't waste your life for this kind of people
2026-10-16 14:23:23
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Salma :
he was sad when we said goodbye, but knew it was for the best (for him). Now idk how he’ll feel or if he will take therapy seriously and change and come back. I’m scared he’s gonna move on and not worry about me bc there’s nothing he can do about his past mistakes with me just look to the future
2026-10-16 12:34:36
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Ahmed Salem Al Torfi :
What if she broke up with me, felt relief, wanted distance (which was good for me), started grieving, met her at a cafe by a coincidence after a week of no contact then met by a coincidence again at the same cafe after another week of no contact, then wanted to meet up the week after, met up and had a lot of fun and then started texting almost daily and meeting almost two times a week, what does that mean? Idk what her intentions is and she feels very open when we talk and it’s the same with me. It’s like we’re more than friends but idk to be honest.
2026-10-16 20:31:04
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Kasey 🐍🎃📚 ♋️ :
what if we live together?
2026-10-15 21:29:33
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abarca.irl :
I broke up with her, before she left. 😁 Still hurt a ton, I’m sure she was deeply hurt too. She’s not coming back and that’s okay.
2026-10-15 18:33:03
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Mr. Pibb :
yeah. she got mean. I told her that she was toxic, emotionally immature, and emotionally abusive. we haven't spoken in 6 months
2026-10-15 20:52:48
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louiegirl17 :
I hate this 🥺
2026-10-16 12:08:57
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🕊️🩵 :
I need an answer, my dear. Does this also apply to the fearful-avoidant attachment style? 📌📌📌📌📌
2026-10-15 19:13:40
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Windowsill Deviled Egg :
She immediately jumped into her pattern with someone new. She was connected with someone the day after I ended things for my sanity’s sake. We daydreamed of building a home together. I can so vividly imagine how it looked. I could see her in it. Now, I spend every day living in a haunted house knowing she doesn’t miss me at all. She hasn’t thought of me since.
2026-10-15 18:36:45
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Patrycja Jocz :
How to do that when we love ech other very deeply and have kids 😭
2026-10-16 12:40:09
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chrissycakes :
mine was in love with someone two wks after
2026-10-16 05:58:20
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Vampyr :
Been like 68 days
2026-10-16 01:44:22
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shannonday365 :
I Claim
2026-10-16 00:16:42
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noahbabcock29 :
what if they got into a rebound fearful avoidant
2026-10-15 21:38:13
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🕊️🩵 :
was involved with a fearful-avoidant for a year and a half, experiencing a constant push-pull dynamic. I couldn’t understand why he behaved that way, and eventually I became exhausted and started focusing on my own happiness instead of caring so much about him.
That’s when he started getting closer to me. For three months, he showered me with love and affection, while also constantly focusing on my flaws. I was confused and surprised by how intensely he was pursuing me.
Then, just as his vacation was approaching, he suddenly started an argument out of nowhere and disappeared. A month and a half later, he entered a new relationship and got married through a formal marriage contract!!
Why would a fearful-avoidant behave this way? Could he have been afraid of the growing closeness and sabotaged our relationship, only to move on to someone else so quickly?
2026-10-15 20:41:19
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Sheryl Suzuki :
It’s been 4 months and he’s ice cold.
2026-10-15 23:06:51
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xistolo :
Was pretty much her only friend and vest frined for years, made her a more social person when she was shy and didnt speak at all, I used to spend time with her until 6 am in the morning for me untik she fell asleep because she was scared to sleep due to some traumas, I was the only one she opened up to and that knows her traumas and much more and then after knowing her for years and spending a year and half in a relationship and it ends she gets with another guy just a few weeks after and blocks me everywhere to
2026-10-16 05:59:06
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robhug13 :
So I didn’t pressure but reached out a couple of times “happy birthday” “how are you?” just things like that. She always responded after having said “I won’t be responding going forward” when she broke up with me. It’s been almost 2 months since I last text her.
2026-10-16 02:45:10
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erythrium :
when I think about the ex da and the motivations and dinamics, I always ask myself the banner: " how to maximise autosabotaging any relation"
2026-10-15 23:38:34
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DougAllen :
I went into no contact and she called me twice on the 3rd day, I didn't respond because she still has a boyfriend. But when she calls and says she's single, that's when I'll talk to her.
2026-10-16 11:48:54
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